Call me old-fashioned, but no matter how close to equal rights queers and lezzies get, at some point we still need a man. There’s no way around it—we can’t do everything on our own. No matter which route to parenthood we decide to take, whether it’s fostering, adoption, surrogate, turkey baster or IVF, at some point at least one splodge of sperm is going to be needed in order to fertilise the egg to make that goddamn baby. So it’s how you get your sperm that’s the challenge for today’s post.
IVF is not “how lesbians get pregnant”. True, lots of lesbians end up doing it, but usually not as a first step. Often not even as a second step, or in some cases even a third. IVF is for most people a last resort. If I had a dollar for every time someone said to me brightly: “how exciting! The first step in trying to get pregnant!” then I’d still want to slap them hard around the mouth. But then I’d have a dollar to put in my purse afterwards which would be nice. Read more